Do you ever limit your dating possibilities? Do you look for someone who has exactly the same interests and tastes that you do? When one of my old friends got divorced several years ago, she said something I have never forgotten. As the breakup crisis settled down, she remarked, Thank heavens, I never have to go camping again!
Whatever the dynamics were in her former marriage, for some reason, she felt it was her duty to participate in something she hated. Consequently, as she searches for someone new, she looks to see if a potential date has absolutely everything in common with her. Two things have happened as a result of her rigid approach: she found a few men on the internet who met all of her criteria, but when she met them face to face, she didn t like them; and, she can t find anyone else to date.
We talked recently and she told me how there isn t anyone out there to meet. This is a common statement I hear every day.
I told her I knew it was hard work to go looking, but that there was someone trying to find her, as she was trying to find him. I reassured her that just because you haven t found him yet doesn t mean he doesn t exist.
If you are single and dating, you will increase the likelihood of meeting someone if you keep an open mind and an open heart. Cast a wider net in order to reveal many more eligible men. You need to consider people who may not be the type you have always imagined.
If you are finding a limited supply of people to date, consider the following possibilities:
When dating, think carefully before you put labels on what you want people to be.
Is the color of someone s hair, how much they weigh, or how tall they are a non negotiable requirement, a need, or a want? The same could be said for their age, how much money they earn, or their years of formal education. Do they have to live in your city, or can they be within a 500 mile radius, or can they be from anywhere?
Shared interests are important, but are all of the ones that you have in mind absolute musts?
Don t limit yourself. Often, just several shared interests are more than enough to give you a focus around which to relate. There is no rule written that says you must do EVERYTHING together. Let go of that self imposed limiting thought and new doors will open for you.
Keep the net wide open when you are telling friends you d like to meet someone. Do not limit the possibilities of who they can bring to you with specific criteria unless it is a totally necessary requirement. Tell your friends you would like to meet someone wonderful, and leave it at that. There is no doubt that chemistry is important, but you and your friends can t know if that is going to be there until you meet the person. Relationships that last have the qualities that endure, such as kindness, intelligence, honesty, patience, humor, and vibrancy.
Accept the fact that after the age of 35, most people come with a history of relationships and other responsibilities.
When you are dating, you may have to stretch yourself in order to fit or accept this reality. However, if you can keep your heart open, you may find these challenges to be your new blessings.
My father used to say, There s a lid for every pot. There is someone out there for you. They may not look exactly the way you thought they would, but you don t have to go camping with them either if you don t want to. They are waiting nevertheless.
Author Resource:-
Chloe is an executive with Meet2Go. She graduated from the UK's leading university and has +8 years experience working at ad firms in NYC and London. She is in charge of marketing for http://Meet2Go.com. Meet2Go is an activity based dating website that allows you post/search activities and make new friends
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